February 15, 2016

An Open Letter to the bodyshamers

Yesterday was Valentine's Day. A day supposed to be filled with love and admiration. We had a great day as a family. Had breakfast together, took a family nap and made cupcakes - even took a family trip to Target "alltogether" (which sounds more like alligator coming from a two and 4 year old) which the kids loved.

Then as the night went on, I checked my email to find one of the most rude and disgusting emails I've ever seen. At first I thought it was spam and almost deleted it. Then I saw where it was coming from - my blog.

I immediately opened it. Everything around me started feeling like it was happening in slow motion as I read the awful words you sent to me about my size and inability to lead in the health & fitness space.

I've already handled my response to you personally - but for the sake of being VERY clear about where I stand with hate speech....

"To the man who sent me the most hurtful and disrespectful message I will likely ever receive,
What I do is not for your approval or disapproval. Your message says more about YOU than anyone else. It shows what a miserable person you are and that you clearly need attention in order to feel good about yourself. 
I pride myself on working with women like myself who are doing their best to start or continue their own health and fitness journey. I pride myself on inspiring and encouraging others - something you clearly know NOTHING about.  
It's sad that in 2016 this type of hate speech is still around and so much so that you felt it 100% ok to not only type out your message, but also hit send. With no regard for what your words could or couldn't do to the person on the receiving end. 
Here's the newsflash - your opinion is invalid and unwanted. No one, in this entire world, has time for that kind of hate and bullshit. You sir need to find some peace within yourself and accept there are people in this world destined to do GREAT things and your OPINION does not and WILL NOT stop them from fulfilling their God given destiny. 
I truly hope you understand the impact and weight of the words you say from now on. Yesterday, they fell in the lap of a woman who was hurt by your words; HOWEVER, I'm a badass woman on a mission and I don't have time to waste on immature, selfish, rude and disrespectful people like you. If it was anyone else, I don't know that I could say the same and something truly awful could have resulted because of your choice. Think about that. 
I am strong.
I am powerful.
I am blessed.
I am loved.
I am awakening radical change. 
.... and I don't care what you, or anyone else who wants to ride on the haterade train with you, has to say. 
The large (fat) woman who IS a health and fitness coach and leads BY EXAMPLE every damn day"


and to the women on their journeys right along with me, do not for a moment pay attention to people like this. If anything, be empowered by their uneducated minds and take this as fuel to continue running your own race. You have a story to tell and it's going to change the lives of those around you. Don't keep your own destiny trapped in your mind because of people like this. Wake up, make a difference, prove them wrong and be YOU.

You were made for MORE. Be encouraged.


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